5. You Cannot Change a Toxic Person
So many people waste their time trying
to change someone who's toxic, but it just doesn't happen. The only
person who can change them is them. They have to decide on their own,
and your attempts to change them will only end up with you being
miserable. It's another one of the harsh realities of life.
Life is too short to waste time on
6. You Cannot Change the Past
What's done is done. You cannot change
what has happened, so all you can do is change what will happen. If
you made a mistake or bad decision, then all you can do is try to
make better decisions from now on.
Don't let the past haunt you. Don't let
the past control your present and future.
7. You Cannot Control Everything
Most of life is completely outside of
your control, and you will just make yourself miserable trying to
control everything that is out of your control. You cannot control
other people; instead, you can only control how you react to other people.
You cannot control most of the
situations around you; instead, you can only control how you respond to those
situations. People who try to control everything typically suffer
from anxiety because they cannot deal with the fact that they have no
control. The harsh reality is that you have no control over most of life.
8. Nothing Easy is Worthwhile
This is one of the harsh realities that typically
becomes more evident as we get older. Anything that you can easily
obtain is usual not worthwhile. If it is hard to get, then by
definition it is probably worth your time or it at least has a great reward. For example, becoming a doctor or lawyer is very difficult, but the reward is significant in terms of income.
Success is one of those
things that no one achieves without a lot of hard work.
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9. Nothing Lasts Forever
Unlike the previous one, this harsh
reality typically is easy to accept when we are young, but it becomes
more difficult to deal with as we get older. Nothing lasts forever,
no matter how much we want it to. Even when relationships last
forever, that forever ends when one of them dies
10. Life Isn't Fair
It never has been and it never will be.
Even if you could make life fair for you, it will always still be
unfair for someone else. There is nothing in the universe that can
make life fair.
11. Success Always Requires Hard Work
No one can be successful without a lot
of hard work. There is no path to success that is easy. This is just
the harsh reality. Even in rare instance where someone lucks into success, it doesn't last because they didn't earn it. For example, most people who win the lottery burn through all that money within six months. And almost all lottery winners use up the money they win within a year, because they didn't work for their success.
Success is not owned. It is leased, and rent is due every day.
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12. Work is Work
Work is work, even when it's something
you love to do. Once it becomes something you have to do, it then
becomes work. No one can ever have their dream job, because once it
is an obligation it loses all its fun and interest.
The harsh reality is that work will always be work, no matter what you do.
13. Friends Are Not Always Reliable
You can't always rely on your friends.
Sometimes they will even let you down. The quality of the friend also
matters, because you may have a thousand "friends" who
won't be there for you when it counts, or you may only have one
friend who is always there for you.
14. When It Rains, It Pours
Sometimes when bad things happen, they
happen in clusters. It's not like the world is picking on you in
particular, it just so happens that bad things tend to happen all at
once. You may go years with almost nothing bad happening, and then
have one year where everything imaginable happens to you.
Just know that it has to stop raining
15. The Grass Is Rarely Greener On the
Except in extreme situations, the grass
is rarely greener on the other side. Yet we always think that in our particular situation, it will be different.
It isn't. In fact, it is almost never
greener on the other side.
The only reason why it seems greener now
is because you are familiar with your current situations, both the
good and the bad, while you are unfamiliar with all the bad of the
other situation. So many people go from one side of the fence to the
other looking for a better partner, job, life, etc. only to find
themselves just as unhappy as before.
16. Time Never Stops Moving Forward
This is another one of those harsh
realities that is easy to accept when we are young, but it becomes
more difficult to accept as we get older. Time never stops moving
forward, and there is nothing you can do to make it stop or slow
17. In An Emergency, You May Only Have
Yourself to Rely On
When we are in an emergency, the
natural reaction may be to wait for help to arrive, such as the police. However, instead, you need to take action and be the hero.
When emergencies happen, the "professionals" don't always
get there in time, and whether or not the story has a happy ending
may be due to someone like you who just happened to be around at the
right time. If you can help, you should help. If you cannot help,
then find someone who can.
18. You Are Responsible For Your Own
You have probably heard about someone
angry, who hit someone else, say, "I wouldn't have hit you if
you hadn't of..." The harsh reality is that we are responsible
for our own actions. No one made that person hit anyone, and no one can make you do anything. No one can make
you feel anything. If you do or feel something, it because you chose
to react. No one can make you react to them.
We have to take responsibility for our
own actions and emotions, realizing that no one controls how we feel
Likewise, other people are responsible for their own actions. Don't let someone else manipulate or control you by threatening to do something to hurt themselves if you don't do what they want. They are responsible for their own actions, and if you choose to not obey them then that doesn't make you responsible for their actions.
Everyone is responsible for their own actions. Don't feel guilty for their stupidity.
19. Most People Are Only Out for
It is not a bad quality to trust
others, but you cannot be too trusting because otherwise people will
take advantage of you. Most people are only out for themselves.
That's just the harsh reality.
20. You Are the Center of No Ones
Not only are we not the center of the
universe, but no one views us as the center of their universe. On the contrary, in their perception, they are the center of their own universe - not you.
21. Typically No One is Thinking about
Everyone is typically thinking about
themselves and what other people think about them. Which means that
no one is thinking about you as much as you think they are. Just like
you are always focused on you, everyone else is always focused on
In your world, you are the main
character, but you are just a side-character to everyone else. And to
most people, you don't even exist at all.
22. Beauty Isn't Everything
This is one of those harsh realities
that is difficult to accept when we are young, but almost everyone
has accepted it as we get older. Beauty isn't everything, and if you
are beautiful now it won't last forever. There are a ton of important
qualities that go way beyond skin-deep beauty. That's just the harsh reality.
23. Kindness Is the Most Attractive
This is just a fact of life. There is
no debate here. Kindness is the most attractive quality, which is
why people who are beautiful can be so unattractive, or why people
who are less than perfect can become attractive once you get to
Kindness is powerful. It can actually
affect your perception of someone, making someone who is beautiful
actually appear ugly to you, and it can make someone who is only
slightly good looking appear extremely attractive to you.
24. Things Don't Always Go Your Way
This is just the harsh reality. Things
don't always go your way, and for most people, things don't go your
way most of the time. This harsh reality is similar to the fact that
losing is unavoidable.
25. Everything in Life Worth Having
Cannot be Purchased
This is one of those life lessons that you
are almost guaranteed to disagree with until you have had everything
you ever wanted (that you could buy), and then realize none of it
ultimately makes you happy.
This is why millionaires can be suicidal,
despite being able to have anything they want. This is how people can
be lonely, despite appearing to have tons of friends. Ever felt
completely alone in a crowd full of people?
Money cannot buy
happiness: all it buys is stuff which make you happy for a brief
moment, and a lot of fake friends. You cannot buy real friends. You
cannot buy peace. You cannot buy a loving family. You cannot buy
friendly coworkers. You cannot buy a drama-free life.