25 Harsh Realities Difficult to Accept

25 Harsh Realities Difficult to Accept

These are 25 harsh realities that are difficult to accept, but ultimately these are truths we have to accept because it is reality. The first few are probably the hardest to accept.

1. You Are Often Your Own Worst Enemy

Usually, the only thing holding you back is yourself. Furthermore, we like to blame our failures on other people or things, but usually we have no one to blame but ourselves. We also limit ourselves and our capabilities, telling ourselves we can do less than what we could actually accomplish...if only you believed in yourself.

You can accomplish anything if you put your heart and mind into it.

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2. Mistakes are Unavoidable

Mistakes are the way we learn, and they are by definition unavoidable. This is one of the many harsh realities. No one can avoid mistakes. You shouldn't beat yourself up for making mistakes, because if you are not making mistakes then you aren't learning.

However, there is a difference between mistakes and just plain bad decisions. Cheating on someone is not a "mistake." It's a bad decision. No one accidentally cheats on someone.

If you want to learn how to do anything, it is a guarantee you will make mistakes along the way.

3. Losing is Unavoidable

"Sore losers" are often those who have a difficult time accepting that they cannot always win. Losing is an unavoidable fact of life, because there will always be more losers than there are winners. Even if you win a lot, you are still going to lose occasionally.

4. You Cannot Make Everyone Happy

It can be difficult to stand up for yourself and set your boundaries, but it needs to happen, because you cannot make everyone happy. There are plenty of toxic people who enjoy manipulating those who try to make everyone happy, ultimately just causing you to be miserable. Don't be a people-pleaser.

Learn to say no. Give them a does of harsh reality by telling them you won't be manipulated.

If you have a hard time saying no, then start by saying yes to something else. If someone asks you to do something, then say no by saying yes to doing something else entirely different.

5. You Cannot Change a Toxic Person

So many people waste their time trying to change someone who's toxic, but it just doesn't happen. The only person who can change them is them. They have to decide on their own, and your attempts to change them will only end up with you being miserable. It's another one of the harsh realities of life.

Life is too short to waste time on toxic people.

6. You Cannot Change the Past

What's done is done. You cannot change what has happened, so all you can do is change what will happen. If you made a mistake or bad decision, then all you can do is try to make better decisions from now on.

Don't let the past haunt you. Don't let the past control your present and future.

7. You Cannot Control Everything

Most of life is completely outside of your control, and you will just make yourself miserable trying to control everything that is out of your control. You cannot control other people; instead, you can only control how you react to other people.

You cannot control most of the situations around you; instead, you can only control how you respond to those situations. People who try to control everything typically suffer from anxiety because they cannot deal with the fact that they have no control. The harsh reality is that you have no control over most of life.

8. Nothing Easy is Worthwhile

This is one of the harsh realities that typically becomes more evident as we get older. Anything that you can easily obtain is usual not worthwhile. If it is hard to get, then by definition it is probably worth your time or it at least has a great reward. For example, becoming a doctor or lawyer is very difficult, but the reward is significant in terms of income.

Success is one of those things that no one achieves without a lot of hard work.

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9. Nothing Lasts Forever

Unlike the previous one, this harsh reality typically is easy to accept when we are young, but it becomes more difficult to deal with as we get older. Nothing lasts forever, no matter how much we want it to. Even when relationships last forever, that forever ends when one of them dies

10. Life Isn't Fair

It never has been and it never will be. Even if you could make life fair for you, it will always still be unfair for someone else. There is nothing in the universe that can make life fair.

11. Success Always Requires Hard Work

No one can be successful without a lot of hard work. There is no path to success that is easy. This is just the harsh reality. Even in rare instance where someone lucks into success, it doesn't last because they didn't earn it. For example, most people who win the lottery burn through all that money within six months. And almost all lottery winners use up the money they win within a year, because they didn't work for their success.

Success is not owned. It is leased, and rent is due every day.

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12. Work is Work

Work is work, even when it's something you love to do. Once it becomes something you have to do, it then becomes work. No one can ever have their dream job, because once it is an obligation it loses all its fun and interest.

The harsh reality is that work will always be work, no matter what you do.

13. Friends Are Not Always Reliable

You can't always rely on your friends. Sometimes they will even let you down. The quality of the friend also matters, because you may have a thousand "friends" who won't be there for you when it counts, or you may only have one friend who is always there for you.

14. When It Rains, It Pours

Sometimes when bad things happen, they happen in clusters. It's not like the world is picking on you in particular, it just so happens that bad things tend to happen all at once. You may go years with almost nothing bad happening, and then have one year where everything imaginable happens to you.

Just know that it has to stop raining eventually.

15. The Grass Is Rarely Greener On the Other Side

Except in extreme situations, the grass is rarely greener on the other side. Yet we always think that in our particular situation, it will be different.

It isn't. In fact, it is almost never greener on the other side.

The only reason why it seems greener now is because you are familiar with your current situations, both the good and the bad, while you are unfamiliar with all the bad of the other situation. So many people go from one side of the fence to the other looking for a better partner, job, life, etc. only to find themselves just as unhappy as before.

16. Time Never Stops Moving Forward

This is another one of those harsh realities that is easy to accept when we are young, but it becomes more difficult to accept as we get older. Time never stops moving forward, and there is nothing you can do to make it stop or slow down.

17. In An Emergency, You May Only Have Yourself to Rely On

When we are in an emergency, the natural reaction may be to wait for help to arrive, such as the police. However, instead, you need to take action and be the hero.

When emergencies happen, the "professionals" don't always get there in time, and whether or not the story has a happy ending may be due to someone like you who just happened to be around at the right time. If you can help, you should help. If you cannot help, then find someone who can.

18. You Are Responsible For Your Own Actions

You have probably heard about someone angry, who hit someone else, say, "I wouldn't have hit you if you hadn't of..." The harsh reality is that we are responsible for our own actions. No one made that person hit anyone, and no one can make you do anything. No one can make you feel anything. If you do or feel something, it because you chose to react. No one can make you react to them.

We have to take responsibility for our own actions and emotions, realizing that no one controls how we feel or act.

Likewise, other people are responsible for their own actions. Don't let someone else manipulate or control you by threatening to do something to hurt themselves if you don't do what they want. They are responsible for their own actions, and if you choose to not obey them then that doesn't make you responsible for their actions.

Everyone is responsible for their own actions. Don't feel guilty for their stupidity.

19. Most People Are Only Out for Themselves

It is not a bad quality to trust others, but you cannot be too trusting because otherwise people will take advantage of you. Most people are only out for themselves. That's just the harsh reality.

20. You Are the Center of No Ones Universe

Not only are we not the center of the universe, but no one views us as the center of their universe. On the contrary, in their perception, they are the center of their own universe - not you.

21. Typically No One is Thinking about You

Everyone is typically thinking about themselves and what other people think about them. Which means that no one is thinking about you as much as you think they are. Just like you are always focused on you, everyone else is always focused on themselves.

In your world, you are the main character, but you are just a side-character to everyone else. And to most people, you don't even exist at all.

22. Beauty Isn't Everything

This is one of those harsh realities that is difficult to accept when we are young, but almost everyone has accepted it as we get older. Beauty isn't everything, and if you are beautiful now it won't last forever. There are a ton of important qualities that go way beyond skin-deep beauty. That's just the harsh reality.

23. Kindness Is the Most Attractive Quality

This is just a fact of life. There is no debate here. Kindness is the most attractive quality, which is why people who are beautiful can be so unattractive, or why people who are less than perfect can become attractive once you get to know them.

Kindness is powerful. It can actually affect your perception of someone, making someone who is beautiful actually appear ugly to you, and it can make someone who is only slightly good looking appear extremely attractive to you.

24. Things Don't Always Go Your Way

This is just the harsh reality. Things don't always go your way, and for most people, things don't go your way most of the time. This harsh reality is similar to the fact that losing is unavoidable.

25. Everything in Life Worth Having Cannot be Purchased

This is one of those life lessons that you are almost guaranteed to disagree with until you have had everything you ever wanted (that you could buy), and then realize none of it ultimately makes you happy.

This is why millionaires can be suicidal, despite being able to have anything they want. This is how people can be lonely, despite appearing to have tons of friends. Ever felt completely alone in a crowd full of people?

Money cannot buy happiness: all it buys is stuff which make you happy for a brief moment, and a lot of fake friends. You cannot buy real friends. You cannot buy peace. You cannot buy a loving family. You cannot buy friendly coworkers. You cannot buy a drama-free life.

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